Business people and college students are taking the plunge and either deleting or deactivating their Facebook accounts! Some in business, are deactivating. This is a temporary measure where you can come back at any time and everything is the same. When I researched it and tweeted about it I found that many young people, would do this to take breaks, say for exams or something important. But I also found that some young people were deleting altogether! Honestly I wasn’t ready to take that final plunge. But I found deactivation, refreshing, enlightening and quite productive.
When I first got on in 2009, it was completely addicting. I reconnected with some wonderful people from childhood, some of whom it was like we never parted. People could just show up anywhere in a conversation and make it so much fun! Put a smile on your face all day. I got to see some family, and pictures. I got to follow musicians! And I loved hearing people’s choices in music. And classic cars, and see who else was nuts about muscle like me! I adore the workout enthusiasts, and love to surround myself with beneficial friendships where we can motivate each other! And politics. Yes really! I don’t usually voice my political opinion but I love reading others, and thinking. I may or may not agree but have still found some wonderful endearing friends! We don’t have to agree… it’s ok! (I agree with myself that I don’t like any of them! The politicians, that is) Sometimes it’s even fun to see what you’re eating…..and uh, drinking too… I guess! My Bears groups (I could stay there all day!) And oh how I enjoy the Monday hater’s (you could do something about that..) and the Friday lover’s ( LOVE me some Fridays! Love Mondays too #DontJudgeMe)
I also have an amazing group of inspiring business associates, entrepreneurs and mentors! I am still giddy with glee that I am “friends” with my biggest, most beloved, most inspiring and most awesome mentor (who told his students to get on social media..in 2009! Thank you, Jim!). This is the area..I hands down consider the “Facebook time” well spent!
Now you’re lucky if you get to see something you enjoy because Facebook controls your timeline and you could be missing tons! It literally thinks it knows what you want to see. (Oh but that’s ok,,you can find it..sooner or later..just keep looking….tick tock) ” Oh, there it is…HAHAHA that was hilarious! 45 minutes in.
The “sharing” a few years ago was real. Real people connecting. I have a whole family of Bears fan friends that I don’t even really know, who open themselves up and share who they are. There are some real gems! And I enjoy interaction from the people I personally know and the people I don’t!
Now the term “sharing” has taken on a whole new life. 18 recycled, regurgitated pictures on 6 different “liked” pages show up, along with the 4 friends that liked it and shared it! Sometimes they’re inspiring, or funny. Other times they’re just downright depressing! Please don’t misunderstand, I do like seeing your opinions and likes. If we all used our brains instead of the share finger, we could come up with some really clever and funny ways to share what we really think and who we really are. Imagine the possib…..
Sharing works in other ways too. They share info about you. They “reserve the right to”.. Wait I haven’t checked for the latest privacy update, let me get back to you on that. I wish mainstream media would show you and educate you with the documentary “Terms and Conditions May Apply” it is SO important that you are at least educated! But if you can’t see that one..at least google “KlearGear.com” and check out THEIR terms and conditions! Very, very costly to those who didn’t! (really, seriously, check it out!)
While I got on Twitter about the same time, I notice right away that if you wanted interaction from the celebrities you loved, (in my case, athletes..sports media etc.,) that that was the place to be! If you’ve “known” me long enough you know I adore twitter. I think it’s compact and complete. I truly believe that’s why you’ll see athletes use it more. Case and point. If you follow someone on both platforms you may notice there is more interaction on their part on twitter. One might post on Facebook, get 672 likes and 347 responses (in the first 2 minutes) and yet never come back to the post. On twitter, you could get a response 😉 try it sometime!
Anyway my point wasn’t to build up twitter and knock down Facebook, it’s about the (advanced) life lesson I have learned from it. If you can keep it short, you can still be productive!
So now during my Facebook hiatus, it was literally like breaking a habit. I even think it was somewhere around 3 weeks! I had to get back on for business sooner or later, but I feel like the coincidental “21 day rule” really did come into play. As I have returned now, I do get a little gut nudge when I want to “just quick check” I hope that continues and I don’t fall back into the old habit. Right now I can take that nudge and go productively run with it. Now I’ll admit, that at the time of this writing..my Chicago Bears just got done putting a whoopin on their favorite Monday night target, the Dallas Cowboys..so some.. “just checkin'” was unavoidable this morning! 😉
In conclusion, I love the fun like everyone else. But it’s not reality. And it becomes less and less reality every day. It also changes security measures on you on the fly. So please educate yourselves! And now, while I am richer (facetious) for knowing that you like Kraft and Chase Bank ( you’re now on their radar for solicitation) and cute puppies and really funny sh!t, I just wasted 30 minutes of productive time that I’ll never get back. And if I gave in and commented somewhere, then surely I’ll need to keep checking back…….. uhhhh tick tock…
Encouraging and inspiring people on your friend’s list is always welcomed. Maybe instead of sharing a quote on a picture every single time, go do something and report back on that! ( Hey now….) The silly, funny and x rated share pics are fun when it’s joking time. But try actually doing something funny. Even if it’s by accident. America’s funniest home video style! Please leave out the personal versions of the x rated stuff. (Or you can just learn the privacy features!) Share some creativity with us. Share a personal experience with us. If you need guidance, love or even validation, I find that there are always people in Face book land that will be there to give you that! (These also do apply to twitter)
And if you’re wondering if you need a break from Facebook, ask yourself this. Could I go 2 days without it? Or even 1? If the answer is no, then you need it! Real life is passing you by! Don’t miss something good. Unlike life, regret never spoils.